There are millions of obstacles when it comes to keeping a relationship going, not to mention, the long distance relationship whereby the term itself contains two words out of three that indicate the first challenge above many. Being alone and being in a relationship at the same time can be really tricky. However, for all those who insist that love always finds a way, here is a list of 5 things (among other things) you’ll need to pull off this madness and get one step closer to something serious like, a marriage.
WiFi, Cellular Data, broadband, or anything that keeps you online 24/7
First thing first, you gotta be reachable. Being physically present for your lover is so rare when you are in a long distance relationship. That means you have to at least try to be virtually present. Connect with each other on every single social networking tool you are using. (If you are thinking of keeping one free from your lover just so you can bitch about your relationship, I don’t know why you are still reading this.) I don’t mean to say that you have to be available online every second of the day but it is so important to receive the latest sweet text or a long piece of tirade which he craps about his boss. Your invisible lover needs a place to go to whenever something happened to him and to receive response immediately would be the most ideal circumstance.
On your desktop, make sure you add the clock as one of your gadgets. Set the time zone to the country’s your lover stays. Do the same for your smartphone. This will keep you alert of your lover’s routine so that you can greet him at the right time. Keep asking your lover “what’s the time now there?” will just ruin things.
A tough spirit or a gang of friends
Are you comfortable eating alone in a restaurant or be seen alone in public? If not, then you better have a fixed gang of friends who will always keep you company when you need to because SPOILER ALERT, your lover, will not be there. *Bummer*
Something that belongs to your lover
You’ve heard what they said, “out of sight, out of mind”. Well, for long distance relationship, that’s almost a given. And you won’t always have the luxury of time to check your lover’s photos on Facebook so get something tangible from him that will remind you of him. It will be better if it is something sentimental; something that will trigger a very fresh memory of him, perhaps an incident or a joke which will bring a smile to your face whenever you see it.
A pet is the best companion you can have at HOME. You can have a real tough spirit or a gang of friends but there will be times I assure you that you can feel absolutely helpless of the loneliness you get because your lover is so far away. In moment like this, a pet comes in handy. You’ll be grateful that someone is there. A pet can be really affectionate if you treated it right. Plus, it doesn’t interrupt you when you are sobbing and trying to talk at the same time. That way, no one’s gonna say the wrong thing and get you more upset. It just keeps listening to you with those puppy eyes which reflect your own emotions.
I know this is not an exhaustive list and they’re just what I’ve gathered from my own experience and others’. So, do share with me what helps you to keep LDR alive by commenting below so that together we can make it work! Before I sign out, I wish you geographically-apart lovers all the best!