Criticism: How do you take it?

Undoubtedly, there are more than two types of people in the world but today, I want to discuss on two types of people in the world – A. Those who are in favor of criticism, B. Those who are disgusted by criticism. Well, I don’t want to use the word, “against” for the latter because usually there are the ones who have no ability or shall I say, lacked of ability to go against the criticism. And when I say they can’t go against the criticism, I mean, logically they can’t. I am going to start describing the latter before I comment on the former.

Type B

People who are disgusted by criticism have a strong belief in themselves. They seem to be the most confident creatures in the world. They are right in every matter. At least, that’s what they think. When a criticism is thrown in their face, they would not hesitate to throw it back to the critic. They are sometimes what people call, defensive. But that’s the taboo. You can’t use that word on them. It is kinda like “He-who-must-not-be-named” in Harry Potter. If you say that they’re defensive, either they will walk away or they will lecture you for the next 5 hours until you agree that they are right. But you can’t say that they are no thinkers. I mean, they think a lot about your criticism because they need to attack you. The first sign of anti-criticism is saying things that lead people to look away. What I mean is that they will think about all the other possible factors to explain the mistake, directing the listener to focus on the other stuffs that contribute to the mistake they made. Most of the time, these factors make sense so people wouldn’t detect the anti-criticism so easily. However, they are usually excuses which these people make to cover the fault in them that they refuse to take in. So, on second thought, they aren’t how they appear to be, they actually have a very low self-esteem which requires people’s approval and validation to fill the big hole in their heart. Reacting to a criticism negatively is their default mode to protect themselves because they can’t handle the pressure of being doubted.

Type A

These people are in favor of criticism but I wouldn’t say that they are huge fans of criticism. I mean, no one in their right mind will love criticism. But they make friends with it, just like how we make friends with people whom we know, aren’t always a delight to be around with.  Criticism helps one to grow. For them, these are the words to live by. They know there is no point attacking the critics. What the critics say may or may not be true but one thing is certain, there is definitely at least one lesson to be learned behind every criticism. Starting from how the critic perceives that leads to making such remark to the impact of the criticism. These people know how hard it is to look into mirror and make changes right after receiving a criticism. So metaphorically, they have the power to detach their soul from their body. They are able to witness the whole scenario of their mistake, scrutinize each part being magnified by the critic and make a judgement for themselves whether to respond to the criticism (note that I do mean responding to the criticism instead of responding to the critic unless there was some clarification needed to be done through discussing about it), meaning, making changes or, to just take it as a reference, learning the process of being emphatic to the critic.   

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